[This is a copyrighted piece written by Bethany Webster. I’m only sharing the beginning and encourage you to follow the link below to read the rest. There is important information here. I don’t agree with all she shares about the role of us women in these dynamics, but that’s another conversation.]
What’s going on with men?
With this massive wave of brave women coming forward with disclosures of sexual harassment across many industries, many of us, men and women alike, are grappling with the sobering reality of rampant misogyny. As a culture, we’re left to ask questions like, why do so many men have the impulse to disrespect, hate or violate women? Where does that really come from? And how do we stop it?
As an internationally recognized expert on the mother wound in women, I’m often asked to speak about the mother wound in men. At this time of mass disclosures about sexual assault, I wanted to write a piece exploring how the mother wound is the missing link in our understanding of misogyny. In this essay, I’ll examine how boys develop in the modern world, the unprocessed anger below the surface of the lives of men, the role of privilege and the inner work that both men and women can undertake to transform our situation.
Oxford dictionary defines misogyny as “dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women.” To understand misogyny we have to explore the first relationship a man ever has with a woman; with his mother.
Some food for thought related to this article above — Shared from a friend in response to this same article:
What I find is TRULY MISSING from all these articles, and even in the following quote” Misogyny is a son’s outwardly projected rage on a mother who was unable to protect him.” by~ Gabor Maté, is the ABSOLUTE REFUSAL OF THE FEMININE to see that a man’s rage at the feminine began with his mother who abused his masculine energy when he was a small boy. The “mother was not able to protect him “BECAUSE IT WAS SHE WHO was stealing his energy, and keeping him emotionally controlled and small.
And she did this because SHE didn’t feel “enough” to love herself, or maintain a healthy relationship with “her man”. So let’s stop blaming the grown man for the abuse heaped on him before he was old enough to remember. Lets help him heal THAT wound, and lets help the women heal from their neediness, and find the worthiness and love within, so they can stop stealing from their little boys and punishing every man who displays wounded behavior.
Let’s have some COMPASSION for ALL the wounded little children inside all of us, stop permitting the attitude of “victims rule”, and support everyone, regardless of physical gender, to reclaim wholeness, innocence and integrity, and GROW UP!! so we can reclaim our planet before it is to late to save.