Fear of Rejection (writer’s and otherwise)

[from: http://www.aroomofherownfoundation.org/Straight_Talk_Bartok.php]

Fear of Rejection


from: “How I Became the Grant Queen and How You Can Too” by Mira Bartók


The fear of being rejected prevents a lot of women from applying for opportunities out there. This phobia reminds me about that old song we sang in the schoolyard when we were kids. I loved it because it was so gross and everyone who knows me knows that trapped inside this 48-year-old woman’s body is a twelve-year-old boy dying to put a frog down someone’s pants. The song goes: Nobody likes me, everybody hates me, guess I’ll go away and eat worms all day. Down went the big one, down went the little one, the last one got stuck in my throat, choke, choke.


Do you really want to go hide somewhere and eat worms all day, choking down your words so no one else can read them?

Rejection—who cares?

Artist/writer Mira Bartók is the author of over 30 children’s books on world cultures, and her essays, book reviews and poetry have appeared in Another Chicago Magazine, Artful Dodge, The Bellingham Review, Kenyon Review, Tikkun, Fourth Genre: Explorations in Nonfiction, and LINK Magazine. She was a finalist for AROHO’s Gift of Freedom Award in 2003. Her creative project—an illustrated memoir titled The Memory Palace, which deciphers a complex relationship with her schizophrenic, homeless mother—became a 2012 Notable Book and winner of the 2012 National Book Critics Circle Award for Autobiography.

I am submitting this piece this morning, as I prepare for one of my monthly meetings with my writing coach. And I’m very excited and yet also anxious about this meeting. Anxious about this book and how good it will be, and how long it will take to write. Anxious about whether anyone will even like the book. Sigh… so this piece gives me some small comfort this morning. Now back to my book writing and prep for my mtg later today with the coach! Onward…


About Mare Cromwell

Referred to as “The Voice of Earth Mother” by a gifted Shoshone elder, Mare Cromwell is a multi-award-winning author, Medicine woman/Lightworker and healer. She has also been told by another gifted elder that her work with Earth Mother is in the prophecies. Her books include: "The Great Mother Bible"; "Messages from Mother.... Earth Mother"; and "If I gave you God’s phone number.... Searching for Spirituality in America". She has studied with Native American teachers for twenty-two years and sat on the World Council for Wisdom Gatherings for three years. Mare leads workshops on our Sacred Planet-Earth Mother, Womb Wisdom and Sacred Silliness and more. She is the visionary and producer of the 1000 Goddesses Gathering in Washington DC. Mare loves to be involved in Ceremony. She is also a former worm herder. She calls Western Maryland home. www.marecromwell.com
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