[This past Sunday I led an afternoon workshop on Earth Mother’s 13 Commandments/Love Directives. At the end of the workshop a woman came up to me and told me that she had a tough time essentially embracing or trying to connect with Earth Mother or the Great Mother — since her relationship with her own mother was pretty wounded. I’m paraphrasing here but that was the gist of her question — how does someone embrace the Sacred Mother when the word “mother” is such a trigger? I’m certain others have offered some wise responses to this question, but here is my attempt – below. Oh, and I encouraged her to think about ‘forgiveness’ and exploring Byron Katie’s work, called “The Work” – rather powerful stuff. We are all on this path of healing, yes? ;~) Me too… ]
Dear xxx –
It was great to have you join us on Sunday afternoon at the workshop on Mother’s 13 Commandments/Love Directives.
I want you to know that I’ve been sitting with your question to me at the end of the workshop, about how does one take in the Love of the Great Mother or Earth Mother consciousness when one’s been so wounded by one’s own mother.
This is a tough question and a really good one too. I have had a troubled relationship with my mother for many years. Part of the time we were not even speaking to each other. It’s a long story and I won’t bore you with the details. But there are times when I wonder if I’m doing this work about the Great Mother (for the Great Mother) because I needed to seek out another source for all that a really amazing real-life mother could have provided me – but did not. Perhaps that is partly the truth.
But getting back to your really good question. Perhaps you could imagine the most beautiful, compassionate Love and allow that Love to come into you, and not name it the Great Mother or Earth Mother. For you to tap that Love. Pray to it. Whatever you are called to do, to bring that energy into your life… It does not need a name. It’s actually beyond what the overused word “love” means… This is a Love that will accept you always, regardless of what you do and all your weaknesses. And will forgive you for whatever you have done, since this Love knows that you were never supposed to be perfect and are a human just struggling to do the best she can. Instead of calling it Mother or Father… perhaps you can just call it Love. Or you could even give it a new word. Whatever comes to you…
The Great Mother’s Love is there regardless of what you call Her. She’s just there. Always. And always willing to help us and support us when we call on her. She’s really quite amazing. But if you’d rather just call Her something else and not give Her a gender, She does not care. She’s just very, very grateful that you are even thinking about Her at all since She’s been ignored for so long.
Maybe this helps?
I send you Big Love, and many blessings, blessings… You are a beautiful woman, inside and out… I really do see this.