Several weeks ago I was reading an original poem titled “The New Macho” written by a poet named Boysen Hodgson, a man associated with the ManKind Project. This is an international group that empowers men to heal by intensive warrior weekends based on Native American spiritual practices such as sweat lodges and more.
I looked at this poem and wondered if I just changed the pronouns, would it be the same? People have said to me that the Sacred Feminine and Divine Masculine are really the same at the very core of what they mean in the highest sense of them. So I played around with the poem and realized it did need some editing from a feminine perspective. [Note: this is an excerpt from The Great Mother Bible.]]
This is what I came up with:
The Sacred Feminine of the New World
(adapted from the New Macho, by Boysen Hodgson, MKP)
She cleans up after herself and others, but if they can clean up after themselves, she gently and firmly informs them of this.
She helps to heal our planet, Earth Mother, in community with her sisters, brothers, children and elders.
She is a role model for young women and all who seek her company and counsel.
She is compassionately honest and wisely optimistic, for she knows her compassion and wisdom can heal on all levels.
She holds herself accountable and humble.
She knows what she feels.
She’s always known how to cry and loves her tears for what they teach her, and how they heal her and allow her to be a more healing presence for others.
She knows how to rage without hurting others and is aware of how powerful her rage can be and how it can terrify others.
She knows how to fear and how to keep moving.
She seeks self-mastery.
She has let go of the childish ‘good-girl’ syndrome and her shame.
She feels guilty when she’s done something wrong.
She is kind to all, including the four-leggeds, winged ones, finned ones and more.
She teaches others how to be kind.
She says she’s sorry.
She stopped blaming men or her parents or women for her pain years ago.
She stopped letting her defenses ruin her relationships.
She stopped letting her insecurities, rage and trust issues run her life.
She has enough self-respect to tell the truth, and the wisdom to do it compassionately and as clearly as she can so the listener can understand, when the listener is ready to hear it.
She creates intimacy and trust with her actions.
She has women she trusts and turns to for support. And men.
She knows how to roll with it, and be very resourceful.
She knows how to make it happen and will, using her graces, wiles, and wisdom.
She is disciplined and flexible.
She knows how to listen from the core of her being, her heart, and her soul, and how to offer a hand or a hug. And when to just be present, close by.
She’s not afraid to get dirty as that has been her work, always.
She’s ready to confront her own limitations.
She has high expectations for herself and for those she connects with.
Her life is service and she knows she can pay the bills while living a life in service.
She knows she is an individual and yet the community is the most important thing to serve—the children, the elders, the men, the wounded…
She knows that all are wounded on some level even if they are not conscious of it. Including herself.
She knows that we are all one.
She knows she is an animal and a part of nature.
She knows she was born as spirit and has honored her connection to something greater all her adult life.
She knows the only authentic power she can and should have is that over her shadow self and her children when they need compassionate direction. She knows the true wisdom lies in circles, councils, water droplets, ripples and energy. And neither straight lines, nor hierarchies, have ever had a place in Universal Law.
She knows the future generations are dependent upon her actions.
She works to co-create communities where all are respected and valued, including the four-leggeds, two-leggeds, winged ones, finned ones and all. She holds the sacred space in the home so all who walk in the door are welcomed, fed and offered healing, directly or indirectly.
She lives her higher purpose.
She loves with deep compassion and understanding.
She laughs and celebrates the silliness in life and embraces each and every Sacred moment with love.
She knows Balance is the ultimate wise path.
This is the Sacred Feminine – the woman helping to mid-wife the New World being birthed at this time – a re-definition of femininity for the 21st century. By no means is this list complete. You are welcome to come and add your thoughts…
This is the original poem:
The New Macho
He cleans up after himself.
He cleans up the planet.
He is a role model for young men.
He is rigorously honest and fiercely optimistic.
He holds himself accountable.
He knows what he feels.
He knows how to cry and he lets it go.
He knows how to rage without hurting others.
He knows how to fear and how to keep moving.
He seeks self-mastery.
He has let go of childish shame.
He feels guilty when he’s done something wrong.
He is kind to men, kind to women, kind to children.
He teaches others how to be kind.
He says he’s sorry.
He stopped blaming women or his parents or men for his pain years ago.
He stopped letting his defenses ruin his relationships.
He stopped letting his penis run his life.
He has enough self-respect to tell the truth.
He creates intimacy and trust with his actions.
He has men that he trusts and that he turns to for support.
He knows how to roll with it.
He knows how to make it happen.
He is disciplined when he needs to be.
He is flexible when he needs to be.
He knows how to listen from the core of his being.
He’s not afraid to get dirty.
He’s ready to confront his own limitations.
He has high expectations for himself and for those he connects with.
He looks for ways to serve others.
He knows he is an individual.
He knows that we are all one.
He knows he is an animal and a part of nature.
He knows his spirit and his connection to something greater.
He knows that the future generations are watching his actions.
He builds communities where people are respected and valued.
He takes responsibility for himself and is also willing to be his brother’s keeper.
He knows his higher purpose.
He loves with fierceness.
He laughs with abandon, because he gets the joke.
This is the Mature Masculine – the New Warrior – a re-definition of masculinity for the 21st century. By no means is this list complete. You are welcome to come and add your gifts to this community. –Boysen Hodgson www.mkp.org